“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always hopes, always perseveres.”
This is how Paul describes love in his letter to the church at Corinth.
Love is other-centered and deliberately so. True love embraces others. True love values their joy and celebrates their success. True love mourns their losses and feels their pain. True love strives to see them thrive and true love is prepared to make the sacrifices necessary to bring that success about. And true love is prepared to stand back and let them shine, without envy and without jealousy.
As you can see, love is not some second hand emotion. In fact, it’s not an emotion at all. It’s a very deliberate action and it can be very hard work. Love can also be incredibly painful, but love and only love is what makes the World a better place.
God created us to love and to be loved. Love is our greatest calling. Nothing that we will ever do, no accomplishments, no gold medals, no promotions, no inventions or creations; nothing can rise to meet the level of a simple act of love.
God Loves us!
Stop for a minute. Let that sink in. Not just the cross; not just the act; think about the reason behind it. God loves me and God loves you. He did not do this for Christians. There were no Christians yet. He did this for sinners. He did this for the World.
God calls us to worship him. What is worship? Is it not the deliberate act of valuing God more than yourself? Worship’s synonyms, listed in the Merriam Webster dictionary are : cherish, love, adore.
When God calls us to worship him, he is simply calling us to love him the way he loves us. And remember, God is not commanding us to worship. He is asking us to worship, inviting us to worship. Our worship is a faith built on love. Love is the single most used word in the Bible and the instruction given more than all others.
So, why does God love us?
That’s not the easiest question to answer.
God is love and it’s his very nature to love. God is also a creator God and he created us. I know these answers feel incomplete, maybe even a bit cliche, but to quote the Bible, “ then I saw all that God has done. No one can comprehend what goes on under the sun. Despite all their efforts to search it out, no one can discover its meaning. Even if the wise claim they know, they cannot really comprehend it.”
Christian or not, our knowledge base, however immense it might appear to us, is still a finite knowledge base in a universe of infinite possibilities.
God created us. God created us to love and be loved and God loves us. Our job is to love.
How do we Love God?
We love God by loving one and other. Each of us is called to love our neighbour, but who is our neighbour?
Is my family my neighbor? Is the person next door my neighbor? What about the folks on the next street over? Is everyone who lives in my neighborhood my neighbor? How do I draw that boundary? What about those who have moved, who lived in my neighborhood? Are they still my neighbors? Or did they somehow lose status simply because they couldn’t afford the rent and had to move? Where do I draw that line?”
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” – Matthew 5:43
“You have heard that it was said”. Jesus did not say, “The Law of Moses says” or “the Bible says”. He said “You have heard that it was said”.
Jesus then says “but I tell you, love your enemies”. Put it all together and Jesus is saying this: “No, you’ve got it all wrong. The Law of Moses does not say ‘Love your neighbour and hate your enemy.’ It says says ‘Love your neighbour’ and I say even your enemy is your neighbour.”
So, if even your enemy is your neighbour, then where then do you draw the line?
Well, if you choose not to draw the line, then that person across the street who drives you crazy is your neighbour.
If you choose not to draw the line, then the panhandler at the delta is your neighbour.
If you choose not to draw the line, then those who oppose your politics are your neighbours.
If you choose not to draw the line, then those who practice a different faith or are born in a different country are your neighbours.
In fact, if you choose not to draw the line, then those who live in a different country, who speak a different language, who look different, who have different customs; they’re all your neighbours.
Of course, geography and culture aren’t the only ways to draw a line. What about time? When does someone become your neighbor? Were your great-great-grandparents your neighbours? What about those people that will be born half a World away a hundred years from now? Are they your neighbors?
Simply put, if you refuse to draw the line, if you refuse to create an exclusive club of people you deem worthy to be your neighbors, then the answer to all of these questions is: “Yes, they are my neighbors, all of them.” So, providing aid and comfort to those who struggle, regardless of race, gender, faith, place of origin, or current residence is loving your neighbor. Recognizing that we are stewards of this Earth, not owners, and that we must care for it for future generations, is loving your neighbours from the future. Honoring gravesites and remembering our past is loving your neighbours from the past.
Love your enemy! There can’t be a clearer admonition than that. Don’t draw lines. Everyone is your neighbour.
So, we love God by loving each other. And we love each other actively, by reaching out and making a difference:
- Attending a memorial service is an act of love.
- Donating to the Food Bank is an act of love.
- A helping hand is an act of love.
- A visit or a call or a warm greeting is an act of love.
- Simply being there and listening is an act of love.
- Sharing your knowledge, mentoring and teaching, is an act of love.
- Sharing the message of love, the meaning of love, is an act of love.
- Sharing the love to be found in the gospels, the good news, is an act of love.
- Standing back and celebrating the success of others is an act of love.
- Protecting our environment is an act of love.
- Rejecting and repudiating prejudice is an act of love.
- Saying “I’m sorry” (and meaning it) is an act of love.
- Saying “I forgive you” (and meaning it) is an act of love.
- Refusing to help someone hurt themself or others is an act of love.
- Intervening to prevent an act of violence or to prevent injury is an act of love.
- Rejecting prejudice is an act of love.
There are so many ways to love someone, but an act of love is just the beginning. Love is an ongoing commitment. Paul says “Love never fails.” Of course, we all make mistakes, but to truly fail, we must give up. Failure of love isn’t a poorly timed comment. Failure of love is a failure to persevere.
What Love isn’t
Love isn’t saying yes to absolutely everything. When your child runs out onto the road, disciplining them is an act of love. Tolerating abuse isn’t an act of love. The word “No” very much is part of the language of love. Love isn’t about wanting what’s easiest for someone. It’s about wanting what’s best. God doesn’t want what’s easiest for us. He wants what’s best.
Remember, what Paul said “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.”
This is a very necessary ingredient of love. It’s also a very tricky ingredient. It’s very easy to drift from judgment to judgmentalism. If your judgment causes you to assign value to individuals, or worse, to hate certain groups, then it’s judgmentalism. “Not delighting in evil but rejoicing with truth” is a very fine line to walk.
Can we love everyone?
At a thoroughly practical level, no of course we can’t. God has that capacity, but we simply don’t. The best we can do is love those people that God places on our path in life. Of course, there is one more thing we can do. We can choose not to hate.
What about Loving Ourselves?
“Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” – Matthew 22:37-40.
“as yourself”, The very instruction that calls upon you to love your neighbour, calls upon you to love yourself. God loves you and you are called to model that behaviour. So yes, if you don’t draw that line, you are your neighbour. God calls upon you to love your neighbour as yourself, by extension, that means that God calls you to love yourself as your neighbour.
Now remember, loving yourself does not mean wanting what’s easiest or most pleasurable for yourself. It’s wanting what’s truly best. Remember what Jim Carey said “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”
Loving yourself inevitably means wanting purpose and it inevitably means wanting to be the best that you can be.
What else does the Bible say about Love?
Matthew 5:43-48
Teaching about Love for Enemies
43 “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy.
44 But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
45 In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.
46 If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much.
47 If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.
48 But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.
John 15:12
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
And Finally 1 Corinthians 13:13
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Yes indeed, the greatest of these is love.
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This is how Paul describes love in his letter to the church at Corinth.
Love is other-centered and deliberately so. True love embraces others. True love values their joy and celebrates their success. True love mourns their losses and feels their pain. True love strives to see them thrive and true love is prepared to make the sacrifices necessary to bring that success about.
As you can see, love is not some second hand emotion. In fact, it’s not an emotion at all. It’s a very deliberate action and it can be very hard work, but love and only love is what makes the World a better place.
God created us to love and to be loved. Love is our greatest calling. Nothing that we will ever do, no accomplishments, no gold medals, no promotions, no inventions or creations; nothing can rise to meet the level of a simple act of love.
Stop for a minute. Let that sink in. Not just the cross; not just the act; think about the reason behind it. God loves me and God loves you. He did not do this for Christians. There were no Christians yet. He did this for sinners. He did this for the World.
God calls us to worship him. What is worship? Is it not the deliberate act of valuing God more than yourself? Worship’s synonyms, listed in the Merriam Webster dictionary are : cherish, love, adore.
When God calls us to worship him, he is simply calling us to love him the way he loves us. And remember, God is not commanding us to worship. He is asking us to worship, inviting us to worship. Our worship is a faith built on love. Love is the single most used word in the Bible and the instruction given more than all others.
How do we Love God?
We love God by loving one and other. Each of us is called to love our neighbour, but who is our neighbour?
Is my family my neighbor? Is the person next door my neighbor? What about the folks on the next street over? Is everyone who lives in my neighborhood my neighbor? How do I draw that boundary? What about those who have moved, who lived in my neighborhood? Are they still my neighbors? Or did they somehow lose status simply because they couldn’t afford the rent and had to move? Where do I draw that line?”
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” – Matthew 5:43
“You have heard that it was said”. Jesus did not say, “The Law of Moses says”. He said “You have heard that it was said”. Jesus then says “but I tell you, love your enemies”. Put it all together and Jesus is saying this: “No, you’ve got it all wrong. The Law of Moses does not say ‘Love your neighbour and hate your enemy.’ It says says ‘Love your neighbour’ and I say even your enemy is your neighbour.”
So, if even your enemy is your neighbour, where then do you draw the line?
Well, if you choose not to draw the line, then a person living in a slum, half a World away, is your neighbor.
Of course, geography isn’t the only way to draw a line. What about time? When does someone become your neighbor? Were your great-great-grandparents your neighbours? What about those people that will be born half a World away a hundred years from now? Are they your neighbors?
Simply put, if you refuse to draw the line, if you refuse to create an exclusive club of people you deem worthy to be your neighbors, then the answer to all of these questions is: “Yes, they are my neighbors, all of them.” So, providing aid and comfort to those who struggle, regardless of race, gender, faith, place of origin, or current residence is loving your neighbor. Recognizing that we are stewards of this Earth, not owners, and that we must care for it for future generations, is loving your neighbours from the future. Honoring gravesites and remembering our past is loving your neighbours from the past.
Love your enemy! There can’t be a clearer admonition than that. Don’t draw lines. Everyone is your neighbour.
So, we love God by loving each other. And we love each other actively, by reaching out and making a difference:
- Attending a memorial service is an act of love.
- Donating to the Food Bank is an act of love.
- A helping hand is an act of love.
- A visit or a call or a warm greeting is an act of love.
- Simply being there and listening is an act of love.
- Sharing your knowledge, mentoring and teaching, is an act of love.
- Standing back and celebrating the success of others is an act of love.
- Protecting our environment is an act of love.
- Rejecting and repudiating prejudice is an act of love.
What else does the Bible say about Love?
Matthew 5:43-48
Teaching about Love for Enemies
43 “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy.
44 But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
45 In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.
46 If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much.
47 If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.
48 But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.
John 15:12
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 & 13
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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